Counseling for Couples


Counseling for Couples

Couples enter counseling for a wide variety of reasons. The multiple demands of daily living impact most relationships today. We work longer hours, have fewer vacations and must make a conscious effort to set aside time for ourselves.

Marriages go through several developmental stages, and with each transition, there is stress. Transitional points such as having a baby, moving, changing jobs, retirement, etc., are stressful because the couple must adapt as individuals and as a couple. In addition, our partners continue to change throughout the relationship. Marriage is a “process” of constant change and adaptation.

Conflict within relationships is just growth trying to happen and is not necessarily negative unless it becomes the primary way a couple communicates. Excessive conflict and anger can destroy all the good in a relationship. The anger and conflict can take on a life of their own; it’s like a virus that affects all aspects of well-being.

Counseling is a place to identify issues, work through problematic areas and develop shared goals for the future. Many times one spouse is hesitant to enter counseling. My approach is respectful, nonjudgmental and realistic.

I believe that a couple must feel comfortable in session to make progress. In addition, the atmosphere should encourage trust and foster the ability to be open.

Some common areas I address in couples counseling are listed below:

  • Affairs
  • Anger Management
  • Boundaries with Adult Children
  • Communication Skills
  • Conflict Management
  • Divorce/Separation
  • Dual Career Issues
  • Extended Family Issues
  • Identifying solvable and unsolvable issues within the marriage
  • Life Transitions
  • Military Lifestyle
  • Parenting
  • Premarital Counseling
  • Re-establishing the Emotional Connection
  • Reducing Stress
  • Understanding how family of origin patterns can impact the relationship